Chemistry and "Ladders"

I have no doubt they will continue to receive far more attention and love from women than I ever will. And they are correct that I'm likely to spend the rest of my life as I always have... "a really wonderful guy" that every woman wants for her BFF, but will never be desired or loved (and needless to say, the one they'll all run to for understanding and solace when the men they do desire refuse to treat them the way I do). Many of them will likely marry, perhaps several times in the course of their lives, whereas it is doubtful that I'll ever again get the chance to. They’ll insist (a little too loudly) that they’re the “real men” and dismiss my contempt as sour-grapes. Fine… they’re entitled to their opinions. But I have something they’ll never even understand, much less possess…

My destiny belongs to me, not the women I date…

And so do my cojones.

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